My hard-working trait, my try to be amazing at things trait, my sweet trait, my fashion trait, and my smart trait, and my love trait. But I also am thankful for those who stick around when my bad traits come out like my sassiness, my moody trait, my sensitiveness, my grumpy trait, my angry trait over dumb things, and even my trying to be amazing at things trait because I always try to be perfect.
Thanks, friends, and family for sticking around. Arthur Bozikas has penned a memoir that is heart-breaking and gutsy, as well as being full of hope and gratitude. This book is guaranteed to lift up readers and have them believing in the resilience and transcendence of the human spirit, making it a must read for years to come. When reaching adolescence, most teenagers want more freedom, independence and control in their lives.
For Arthur, it was the opposite, as he discovered that his lifespan would only last up to adulthood. After becoming an adult, Arthur was waiting for his death.
It was at the eleventh hour, at the age of twenty-one, when Arthur was introduced to a miracle treatment, but only after the damage of iron overload from all the blood transfusion was done to his body. Grateful to be given a chance to survive for a few more years, Arthur decided to do something with his life; to get married, buy a house and also to have children, knowing he had no prospect of any future for himself.
At the age of sixty, Arthur and his wife Helen celebrated their thirty-five-year marriage anniversary. Recently we caught up with Bozikas so we could learn more about this amazing human and very talented writer.
Why was you story Iron Boy one that you felt you needed to share with the world? I promised myself if I made it to the age of 40 years old, I would put it all down in writing. I didn't know it will take me another twenty years to do it? When reading Iron Boy, the book struck me as a story on struggle, but more so about survival and endurance.
How has that challenges you faced growing up helped shape you as an individual today especially as it pertains to business and entrepreneurship? This is the first of its kind worldwide, from the prospective of a patients' point of view and not from a specialist or doctor. I wish I had something like Iron Boy when I was young and very afraid of my prospects! As a professional CEO for over twenty years, the challenges in business is that you need to equip yourself with the right information or you are dead in the water!
People with my condition now do have my book to prepare for the future because there is one and it's up to the individual to believe! Being married for 35 years is a huge accomplishment, what is the secret to your success that you can share with younger couples looking to hopefully have the same success in their marriages? I think if both couples feel like they can't wait to share a new idea with one another or are not prepared to go anywhere without their partner by their side, then this is the only secret that any younger couples must desire for a successful marriage!
These two examples will resolve all arguments that every couples get into a marriage too or later! From a life lesson perspective what are some of the key points that you hope others can take away from your story 'Iron Boy' and even more so what is something that you hope you leave behind to your children that you hope they can apply to their own lives?
My children have been raised to see the person, and not the disability, that they have. I would like for a life lesson that the world can refer to us as "people first" regardless the disability one has. People with a disability and not disabled people…always put "people" first.
See the person and not the disability! How do you feel now? How is life after the 'miracle' treatment and is there any message that you would like to share with others who are struggling with the same challenges that you faced but that you are also facing here today?
I feel very grateful and life is wonderful for me and my family. Although health issue will continue to always be a big issue for me, I will deal with them each one at a time. The important thing is that young people worldwide with my condition can inspire others to do great things would something I would love to inspire!
Aging can make getting around much harder. Make sure your parents are safe in their own home by following these tips. There is going to come a time when your parents need a little help to safely live in their home.
This is just an inevitable part of life. The goal is to keep your parents as comfortable as possible while also knowing that they will be safe when alone. Luckily, it is fairly easy to make a few adjustments to the house that drastically improve its livability for seniors.
These are the four things you must do to help your parents create a safe home as they age. Poor eyesight, reduced hearing, and imbalance put older individuals at risk of falling while moving around the house. Falling is actually the main cause for injured seniors.
Since this is a dangerous problem, you need to remove all fall hazards from their house immediately. Throw rugs, long cords, and old unused furniture all pose a huge risk. Make the house as open as possible. Walking up stairs puts a lot of stress on older bodies.
They have to use all of their strength just to go up a flight of stairs. There is also a major injury risk if they fall while using the stairs. Avoid all of these dangers by adding a stair lift in the house. Stair lifts will safely go up and down the stairs whenever needed with absolutely no risk of injury. The slippery surfaces in the bathroom make it one of the most dangerous rooms in the house for your older parents.
There are several changes you need to make to ensure they stay safe. Put rubber mats inside and outside of the tub to prevent slipping. Add grab bars in the shower and next to the toilet. It is also a good idea to lower the temperature on the water heater to stop accidental burns in the shower. The best thing you can do to make sure your aging parents are safe in their home is by making regular visits to see them.
In addition to spending valuable time with your family, you will also be able to access the house and your parent's well-being during these trips. Make sure some of your visits are unannounced to get a true sense of how they are living. Your parents took care of you your entire life, so it is now time to repay the favor.
Making these changes to the house will let your parents have independent lives in their own home for as long as possible. His music is a unique mixture of chill rap, alt-pop, and bedroom pop.
On top of that, his youthful nature is portrayed so exuberantly through social media. He showcases such vulnerability and relatability through his music and personality.
Overall, he's definitely an artist to have on your radar. It's insane to me that he only has about 2,00 monthly listeners on Spotify.
He has a sound that would really thrive in today's music scene and I think he is extremely underrated. Definitely give them a listen! His lyrics and flow are so smooth and sounds like he's already an established artist. He could easily compete with rappers today. While his music discusses girls and drugs, he also uses his platform to advocate for human rights movements like BLM. If you lose contact with him for a time, be open to his friendship at a later date, when you both have lived a little longer and are wiser.
Good luck. Do try to salvage something though, before writing him off. I would base my actions on how you would feel if he unexpectedly died, say in a year or two, without you ever having contacted him again. Not judging here, as I don't communicate at all with two of my siblings, so maybe you would be fine with it.
Btw, about me and the two siblings I mentioned, we ARE all on "good terms" with each other, but because we have lived more than miles apart for close to 30 years and so see each other, at most , about every two or three years, and because we have completely different lives and interests, we just don't feel the need or have the desire to communicate with each other at all.
We keep up with each other's major life events through another sister, the "social organizer" of the family. I have this dilemma. I haven't spoken to my brother in years and probably won't again. I'm OK with that. I watched how insidiously he tortured our dear Mom. She didn't deserve to suffer for his immaturity. It definitely had a lot to do with her untimely demise. I'm not ready to forgive. He still hasn't learned.
Dear OP Did you say anything to your brother at the time he visited? If you said nothing then you should write him a letter telling him how you feel, don't put it in a birthday card, it has nothing to do with that.
Don't be overly emotional and just state the facts such as "you said "…" or "the way you treat me does not make me want to spend time with you". I would not make life-long pronouncements such as "I never want to see you again" because that may not be true.
Tell him you don't feel like spending time with him and hope that sometime in the future that could change if he does. It will feel good to get it off your mind. Sometimes relatives can be the worst to be around. As they say You can choose your friends but not your relatives. I surely wish I could have chosen different parents and had a better childhood but that's life. All the wise books say to forgive people so the negative feelings don't stay in you. Forgive but don't forget.
I keep toxic people far away from me. Don't feel guilty about breaking ties. Do what's in your best interest. Take time apart. Originally Posted by silibran. Please register to post and access all features of our very popular forum. See a lawyer for advice on drawing up a watertight will.
Not Helpful 38 Helpful Keep a diary of all the events and exactly what happened. You may need to have this evidence. Keep it safe somewhere like an online email address they cannot see. What is happening may be unlawful, but if it is just your word against theirs, it will be hard for you.
Diaries of events help build your case. Not Helpful 22 Helpful If you are old enough, you can file a restraining order, which would prevent certain contact with your mother, including one where she cannot approach you, or speak to you. Not Helpful 33 Helpful I'm 16 and my family is mentally and emotionally abusive, my father smokes marijuana nightly, and my mother drinks daily and nightly.
Is it possible to legally transfer to a friends house and "disown" them? Yes, you may be able to legally emancipate yourself. Consult with child services to start the process. Not Helpful 9 Helpful Is there any way to gradually write them off over time without hurting their feelings? This can be easier if you don't live with them.
Slowly filter them out of your life, then you can move to make bigger steps like blocking their phone number, blocking them on all social media outlets, etc. You may run into issues, though, if you ever see them in public.
Be careful, be wise, be safe. Not Helpful 11 Helpful As an adult, how can I disown only my mother while she is married to my father? Talk to your father and tell him how you feel about your mother. Let him know you do not wish to see your mother anymore, but are happy to see your father alone.
He can come visit you, or you can meet up where your mother's not around, and you can always stay in touch by phone, email, etc. Not Helpful 34 Helpful Include your email address to get a message when this question is answered. Disowning your family of origin will not automatically heal the wounds they inflected. Therapy, self-reflection, and time will help you transition through this challenging situation.
Helpful 7 Not Helpful 0. If staying with friends or family, ensure you clearly state your boundaries to protect your safety. Helpful 5 Not Helpful 0. Social workers, therapist, and counselors may be able to provide you with helpful resources. Helpful 4 Not Helpful 2. Well-meaning friends and family may caution you against taking the steps that you need to ensure your mental and physical safety, however you are the only person who knows what is best for you.
Society wrongly stigmatizes children and adult children of abuse who choose to distance themselves from their abuser. Know you are right to put your mental and physical safety first. Helpful 12 Not Helpful 1. Some family members may question your decision and actively advocate on behalf of your abuser. You don't have to prove why your decision is warranted.
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